Isal-e-Sawab for Non-Mahram

الاستفتاء

I have a few questions about a loved one who has passed away.
(1) First of all, she was never married to anyone. Can I pray for her to be with me in the hereafter, and for us to be married in paradise? (2) Secondly, can I recite the Qur’an, perform Nawafil prayers or give charity as a means of Isal-e-Sawab for her? (3) Thirdly, Can I go to her grave and recite the Qur’an for her? If you can inform me of any Masnoon supplication or deed that can be done as Isal-e-Sawab for her, I would be very grateful.
I am asking these questions because we are not Mahram. This is why I want to know whether or not the worship I intend to do for her as Isal-e-Sawab will be accepted.

الجواب حامدا و مصلیا

In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful
It is permissible for the questioner to perform any type of worship (such as; reciting the Qur’an, Zhir, giving charity etc.) as a means of Isal-e-Sawab for the deceased. It is also permissible for the questioner to supplicate for her to be with him in paradise, however, it is better for him to ask supplicate to Allah for good and wellbeing in this world and the hereafter. Furthermore, instead of going to the grave of the deceased, it would be better for the questioner to perform these acts of worship of behalf of the deceased in the comfort of his home.
Nonetheless, it must also be understood that although one may not be able to control his love or heartily inclinations for someone else, neither will he be taken to ask for this, however, it is not permissible to keep a picture or even fantasize about a non-Mahram woman. This must be avoided.